The image of Socrates and his wife teaches us more than just facts, but about truth. Socrates was Plato’s teacher, advised kings on how to lead their kingdoms, and influenced the world’s thinking…but Socrates was constantly confronted by one person: his wife. The philosophy here is “You cannot lead people who will not follow you.”
Khravasadhamma or the rules and regulations for the householder, man or woman, society, family, people, community, state, nation to follow, follow, and follow in order to achieve lasting peace and happiness.
Question- What is called Khravasadhamma?
Answer- What is called Khravasadhamma is the dharma or law for the householder, the manager of the house, to follow or follow.
1- Truth: Honesty towards each other.
2- Tamas: Advising the mind to be gentle and non-violent.
3- Kanti: Tolerating everything in all tasks.
4- Jaga: Give away your wealth to others who deserve it.
Commentary - Householders who are householders always have wives and children who are members of their own families. Those members always have different personalities, even though they are of the same blood. Some are fun-loving and talkative, some like to joke and play tricks, some earn their living by lying to others and lying to themselves, using all kinds of tricks, and others are honest and have few desires, preferring tranquility and not wanting anything excessive that contradicts the nature of their parents. Because people born into the same family have different tolerances and characteristics, according to their own actions and perceptions, the Buddha explained this truth as the dharma for excellent relationships, which can create unity in each family. If such people are united, happiness and prosperity in the entire family will certainly be guaranteed. This truth also has a great influence, extending far and wide until the people in the entire country act and hold it. In particular, national leaders must first and foremost carry the banner of truth.
Good virtues, which are the best qualities, must also have truth as their basis or source. Scholars have compiled articles stating that the top leaders of each country must have the following qualities:
A- Serve the nation with a pure heart and 100% truthfulness (Vérité c’est le respect les citoyens) Be honest with the people, put the national interest above personal interests, do not exploit or prey on the backs of the people, do not get involved in corruption, sell national wealth, state wealth without regret, always be clean and permanent, have few desires, do not do anything that is a cause of sorrow for the entire nation.
B- Have little ambition, work day and night to serve the nation, with all your physical and mental strength, and do not want anything for yourself and your family. The main and greatest goal is to make the nation prosper in all areas, be as prosperous as other civilized countries in the world, and for its people to experience lasting peace and tranquility, and for the people to prosper and be as prosperous as possible.
C- Have a bright and clear mind, like the rays of the sun, able to see the history and geography of your country in the past as lessons for the present and to see the development of the country in the long, long future.
D- Have enough knowledge that can be used to serve the nation abundantly. This is normal. Leaders always encounter words of praise or compliments from the people, because in matters of morality, this has always happened since ancient times. On the contrary, if a leader does not apply the knowledge he has acquired in the right way, the good way, he will not benefit the nation.
E- The national leader sits and works only in a glass house, not hiding from the public, so that the people can see the activities or work of the leader at all times.
C- Dare to struggle until they sacrifice their lives when the country is in crisis and war, such as a war caused by foreign aggression. This article describes the noble and invaluable personality of the leader of this state. If any country has leaders like the above, the country will develop as a real power in this world. If each family or the people of the country are firmly established in the truth, that is, honesty between each other, they will also have:
Tam-dharma (tama-dharma) is good advice to the mind, which is called discipline, which makes the mind calm and gentle, so that there is no more anger and aggression against each other. The mind is always thinking about various feelings without stopping, always excited and trembling, difficult to protect or resist to stay in one place. The wise have said that a person who has trained his mind well, that person has attained happiness, which is the greatest desire of mankind. It is true that the mind is intangible, we cannot see it with our eyes, but it can command the entire body. This is why the Buddha taught the world to train the mind to be gentle and gentle, to abstain from all unwholesome actions, such as physical or verbal abuse of people or animals around us. This mind, no matter how stubborn it may be, can be trained or trained well, no different from a bow that is bent and aimed straight so that it can shoot at the target in the four directions as desired. If the mind is refined, then the task can be completed. All tasks, no matter how difficult or pleasant, can be achieved as desired, depending on doing them with effort and patience, which he called:
Kanti is the perseverance, not being afraid of all difficulties in completing those tasks. All tasks cannot be accomplished by just thinking or wishing, only by doing and persevering. Khanthi considered it a very high virtue for Eliminate all unwholesome qualities, such as violence, and are the best adornment of men and women. When there is tolerance towards each other, there must also be a distribution of one's wealth, which he calls Jaga.
Jaga is giving up stinginess and taking wealth as alms to those who deserve it, because a householder must divide his wealth into five parts:
1- Maintaining himself and his parents, children, wife, slaves, and workers in happiness.
2- Providing for his friends and relatives in happiness.
3- Eliminating the dangers arising from various fears.
4- Making five kinds of sacrifices, such as sacrifices to relatives.
5- Giving alms to Brahmins who have done well.
The one who seeks wealth has come through the good path, the righteous path, and should know how to use the benefits of that wealth, not to leave it idle. A person who spends his wealth to support himself and his parents, etc., is called holding on to the benefits of that wealth. If we use our wealth in useless ways, such as gambling and flirting, we do not take advantage of the wealth.
To raise good friends means that we only choose good friends, and we should not share bad friends with them. After all,
Asevana dharma is the biggest thing in our human life. Even the Buddha spoke in the 38 Suttas of Mungkala, and he took up association first, such as the verse Asevana ca paalanam banthi dhanchan sevana, etc., which means that you should not associate with bad people, and associate only with the wise, so that it is considered good fortune and prosperity. That is why he saved only friends who can rely on or help us at all times in times of need.
Spending wealth to eliminate the dangers that arise from various causes means eliminating the dangers that arise from all kinds of fears, such as fire, fear of fire, fear of thieves, fear of theft, fear of earthquakes, fear of floods, etc. with the power of wealth that can take strict measures to prevent them from happening.
One should help one's relatives according to their rank in both families, which is called ṭṭipoli. One should show hospitality to guests who come to one's house, which is called ṭṭipoli. One should make offerings to one's ancestors, parents, etc., who have passed away, which is called Ṣubuppetapoli. One should pay taxes to the state according to the laws of each country, which is called Ṣratapoli. The devas who are the guardians of the entire universe, who are established in peace everywhere, must make offerings to them, which is called Ṣadvatapoli. Ascetics who are virtuous, who perform religious duties or perform public services for the general public, should also be considered as persons to be worshipped.
The commentary on the four khāravasādhammas, which relate to the distribution of household wealth, is appropriate for the time being. May all the monks experience only happiness and prosperity forever.
A poem to remind you of the four virtues of the Buddha, which the Buddha taught. If you act consistently, you will find happiness. If you do not act consistently, you will inevitably encounter suffering, and you will continue to suffer. You will not find happiness, my lord.
Chapter 19, Singhalaka Sutta (Buddha's Advice)