However, unfortunately, in many modern families, this role is being "lost".

Psychologist Gerdi once said that "the father is the only being with a special power to raise children". For a normal family, the father is like a vast sky. Under that sky, children grow up in the warm sunshine. When the storm comes, the father is the one who protects the children and protects them from difficulties.

However, unfortunately, in many modern families, the father only thinks about work and does not do any work, education, the children are completely handed over to the mother. The painful truth is that many fathers play the role of "money-making machines" without participating in the formation of their children's personalities or education.

Fathers shape children’s attitudes and views about money

The importance of fathers in shaping children’s personalities is undeniable. Fathers who live lavishly and spend lavishly will find it difficult to help their children develop savings habits and develop healthy financial habits. This not only affects their children’s ability to manage money, but also has a profound impact on their personality and values.

If a father always asks his children to live frugally but himself lives lavishly, these requests will be easily ignored by his children. Children will begin to wonder: “Why can dad spend freely but force me to live frugally?” This can easily lead to opposition and disrespect for his father.

For fathers, if they do not set an example of saving money, it will be difficult for their children to learn how to manage their finances and avoid waste. Fathers must remember that sometimes the best way to educate is by setting an example of frugal living, living simply, and always remembering the hard days so that their children can learn how to live responsibly.

The Father is the One Who Determines the Future of His Child

A 5-year-old boy can read and later learns to write poetry. Everyone loves and rejoices. Whenever he goes out with his father, no matter where he goes, the boy is treated like an honored guest. More importantly, the father can improve the family life by selling the poems that his son writes.

Sadly, instead of helping his son develop, the father only knows how to use him to sell poems. As the son grows up, his talent gradually decreases and he becomes an ordinary person.

When Vuong Anh Thach, a great writer of the Song Dynasty, heard this news, he was moved: “This child received a talent from heaven, beyond his generation, but in the end he became an ordinary person because his father only knows how to make money and does not know how to help his son study.”

It is a tragedy caused by the father himself. This shows that the father’s vision for life and the future will have a great influence on the development of his son. If a father does not know how to guide his children, does not support them in their studies or develop their abilities, their children will have a hard time going far in life.

A father who has a broad vision and direction for his children will help them have a bright future. At the same time, if a father only thinks about immediate benefits, without paying attention to the long-term development of his children, his children will easily live in a state of goallessness and lack of motivation to develop.

If a father is hot-tempered, his children will lack confidence

Compared to mothers, fathers are often hot-tempered and easily angered. There are fathers who only need a few glasses of wine to start complaining about their families and take out all their frustrations on their children.

On Zhihu (a Chinese social network), a girl asked the question, "My father is hot-tempered and easily angry. What should I do?".

The girl mentioned that her father would often get angry for no apparent reason and sometimes used a stick to beat family members. She is currently in high school and needs a quiet place to study, but in her heart she always feels like escaping her father's anger. She was also ordered to do housework by her father frequently and felt very stressed.

She said that she didn’t know what her future would be like, but she didn’t dare to meet and talk to her father in person.

A user replied to her: “When you are independent, it’s best to stay away from your father as much as possible.”

That’s right, if children want to have a chance to succeed, sometimes they need to stay away from their father who is too strict and controlling. Otherwise, their whole life will be controlled by their father because of his excessive “power.”

When children have their own opinions, but their father doesn’t distinguish between right and wrong and just gets angry, they will gradually lose their courage and dare not do anything. From there, they will become shy and lack confidence. How can you have great ideas when you lack confidence? Before I started, I was discouraged by criticism and blame.

Everyone’s vision is different, and a father’s anger often comes from his children not meeting his expectations. This creates conflict between the two generations. Children have no right to protest, so they have to endure. However, this will leave scars in the children’s souls, reducing their confidence.

If a father behaves inappropriately, his children will suffer a disaster.

The Ming Dynasty writer Li Mengchu wrote about a man who lived in Yunnan Province, a wealthy family.

In order to compete for property with family members, the man bribed a local official. But before the lawsuit could be settled, the official was dismissed and returned to his hometown in Sichuan Province.

Now the man felt dissatisfied and led a group of people to Sichuan Province to find the official and demand the bribe back. On the way through Chengdu, he became interested in a woman in a brothel, spent all his money, and later got into an accident. More than a year later, his two sons also came to Chengdu and, shamefully, were seduced by the prostitute.

“If the father is bad, the son is bad” - This is Mary

 Important things that every father must remember.

When a father falls in love or behaves inappropriately, his image will be ruined in the eyes of his children. This creates a ghost in the children's minds, affecting their development and happiness.

If children follow their father's actions and continue to have bad relationships, the family will be unhappy. Couples will argue, which will eventually lead to divorce.

Raising children well is a way to make money

Fathers not only give their children life, but also have a great influence on their children's destiny. Fathers must be wise and strong, not weak, domineering, hesitant or impatient.

If you want your children to have a good life, fathers must become the following people:

Encourage learning: Become a person who loves to learn, provide an intellectual family environment, thereby increasing the understanding of earning money and the value of learning.

Be responsible: Being a responsible person helps children feel the warmth of a complete family, creating a happy foundation for them.

Save and be simple: Become a thrifty person, develop healthy lifestyle habits, and help your children accumulate important money for life.

Have a vision: Become a person with a broad vision, help your children realize their great goals in life, and do not hesitate to go to great lengths to earn money.

Earn money actively: Being active in earning money helps children feel financially stable in the family, thereby gaining more confidence when facing problems.

Father is the ship, mother is the ship. Father is the lighthouse, mother is the guiding light. In a family, when the father changes and improves himself, the mother will also continue to change, and the children will benefit from the overall development of the whole family.

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